What does make a good parent?

Boy it is a struggle to being a parent. Then you through in the word "good" and there is a whole new meaning for that one. Are we good if we let them do all they want even if we know that it is all not that good for them?


The kids where gone for the last couple days with their dad. They missed 4 days of school after being off for Christmas vacation. After serious thought, and hesitation I said it was ok to go with their dad for this trip. I knew that it would be great time spent with dad, who's time with them is limited due to his work schedule.


Upon coming home and getting ready for bed, one child started to cry. Wondering why since I didn't see the obvious reason, I asked why the tears? Mom ,he said, I forgot to study for spelling and the test is tomorrow. Instantly wondering where was the good parent the last couple of days? Did a good parent even know about the test on Friday? I think not. And what would a good parent do now? I calmly replied- what do you think you should do?


First reply... I will get up early and study. Yes, but do you think that one day will make a difference? After some thought and more tears, " I need to go to the teacher. Yes and ask if I can take it another day."


Yes and she had the option of saying yes or no. And you need to except what she has to say. You have to take the responsibility that you went on a vacation and didn't follow through with all that you had to do. I tried to talk to him and explain that actions have consequences and that we need to be responsible for them. I tried to tell him that we are not graded on one test. We will have many tests in life.

Being a good parent, explaining in small ways that this is only a small piece of the pie. One hump in a series of many. And letting them know that they are loved even if they forget their homework.

Being a parent...always. Being a good parent...it's a journey!