You Don't Live Here...You Don't Know

Money does funny things to one-don't you think? It can make a bad situation good and /or bad. It can make a good situation equal too. It can make the difference in wants and needs. It can make the difference in spending and saving for a rainy day. Who has it and who hoards it. Who realizes that it isn't our anyway, we were just given it to handle and use it as needed.



My children are maturing. I am trying to instill good health relationship with money. It doesn' t grow on trees. We don't harvest it in the fall and replant in the spring. We don't work to just blow it on junk. I give them an allowance so that they see how to save for the "wants" in their life. I am beginning to say~Ask your dad.



It is time that I don't keep them in the dark about issues that concern me and their father. I am sick of being the fall guy. They are old enough to know what really goes on. I am beginning to educate them on difference that people have and that is ok to be different. We as a whole will continue to see that all their "needs" are met but as for their "wants". Well it depends who you ask and what makes it a need or a want. Dad and I don't see eye to eye on that one. But then again he is not the one who clothes or feeds them on a daily basis. It is easy to come upon a situation for a moment and give your two cents, but if you haven't seen how the whole systems runs~you don't have any idea if that your so called suggestion will work. Nor do you live. My house, my rules~your house etc.

Finding out more and more that there are many reasons people grow apart and usually there is only one thing that "breaks the camel's back". Trying to straighten out all the things that come to my children from one that they love and explain my point of view on the subject. Not being in my home and seeing what takes place can make a outsider say that I spend my money on only me. Well as the saying goes Don't ASS U ME anything. You don't know and I don't care. But the fact of the matter is that my kids do. They love us equally and that is how it should be. I do think that if they lived there for more than "fun dad" times, they would see that mom isn't that bad. Mom is a smart business woman. Mom know how to run her /our house quite well. And guess what... she learned it from her mom and dad! The only difference is that they were a complete unit. They worked as a team. That is not possible at this time. Too much unresolved issues on one side. So many things that were not yet addressed. That is only me looking outside in. But until someone shows me different, that is the only thing that I can believe.

I am not blaming here, not at all. But I only will accept half fault. No more, no less.



So at times it is hard for the kids to see my side of the story when they are misled on views of others. But isn't that how life goes. Many ways of doing and seeing many things. I just hope that both parental views are seen equal eventually. Thought thoroughly and then make decisions as needed. I am not in for the glory but to see my kids really know what is important and what is just "stuff". Live happily and know that they are loved. I know that is what I want and I am seeing that I get that. But until they come to that realization for themselves, I will just help them along the way. That is my job as a parent, not their friend.