The Conferences

Went to the boys conferences yesterday. I wasn't sure what I was going to hear or see when it came to report cards. Well yes, I did have insight. I was seeing what was coming home and what I was not excited to see some of the papers. Well it turns out that the one who has continuously struggled is somewhat getting it. Yea! And the one who I know would fly by the seat of his pants is now getting what is deserved. With little effort on his part, he can no long just get by. Grades reflect effort to some degree.

My youngest "the comedian". Oh he will keep you laughing. He knows what to do but a 'C" is good enough for him. Well not for me. He needs to improve the grades or he doesn't wrestle. I know he gets it-it is just lack of motivation and laziness. He is smart and he is going to be one of those guys that knows how to work the system and will. Not a bad thing but hmmmm. Charm and humor will not always get you the job. Or will it? I will be on him a bit more and work on the details of the school work now. Oh don't get me wrong he is a good boy and I will keep the positive flowing. I will praise what needs praising. But do a bit more pushing. Need to work on the attitude.

T the one that has struggled his entire school life is finally getting it too some degree. Oh yes he works and works very hard at it. But it is paying off. He is reading at a 5th grade level and liking it to some degree. Oh I know that I can not back off though. We just are making head way now. I was so proud of him. I could have cried. I know how the battle is hard.

The one thing that stood out in both conferences the most is that both my boys are loving, good kids. The teaches both praised their core goodness. They would love 25 kids like them in class. And isn't that what you really want to know? You didn't fail when it came to the basic of goodness and lovingness. That is what is truly important. That I have children that I can be proud of. I know that as a parent I didn't fail in that and I am divorced too. Who would have figured that good kids can come from divorce parents? (Oh I am being cynical now. Excuse me but divorce parents can get a bad rap sometimes.) Core goodness shown to others is what is important.

I am proud of all my "seeds". They are the best of me and their dad. This is one of the proud parent moments. When you know why they came into your life and give it purpose. MOM never sounded so sweet!